【家長必讀】文摘第二期:25個(gè)6歲之前必須養(yǎng)成的好習(xí)慣
有時(shí)候,我們看到孩子在電梯里大聲尖叫,在和人講話時(shí)不停挖鼻子,或者在一個(gè)女士走過他面前時(shí)和小伙伴討論“她丑死了”……忙碌的爸爸媽媽們可能都來不及意識(shí)到這些行為是需要改進(jìn)的。
“25 Good Manners that a Child Should have by Age 9”, 這原來是美國Parent雜志中的一輯跨頁內(nèi)容,我第一次看到它是在孩子的學(xué)校。老師用硬卡紙把這些good manners(應(yīng)該說是好習(xí)慣?或者說是規(guī)矩?兩者皆有之吧)貼在入校的墻壁上,每個(gè)孩子每天都會(huì)“走”過這些good manners。有一些做的不對(duì)的地方,老師就當(dāng)下指著墻壁上的“條款”柔聲細(xì)語但是卻很堅(jiān)定地教育孩子要做到了。如果你希望有一個(gè)懂禮貌,善意,討人喜歡的寶寶,就一起來學(xué)習(xí)一下這25個(gè)must-do manners。一個(gè)會(huì)說“謝謝”、咳嗽知道捂住嘴、記得幫后面的人帶一下門的孩子,比會(huì)背多少唐詩會(huì)背多少單詞都要重要。
1. When asking something, say Please
需要東西的時(shí)候,要說“請(qǐng)”,“請(qǐng)幫我拿一下”,或者換一個(gè)詞,學(xué)會(huì)說“麻煩你”。
2. When receiving something, say "Thank you."
當(dāng)收到東西的時(shí)候,要說“謝謝”。
3. Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.
除非緊急,否則不要打斷大人說話。當(dāng)然作為大人,我覺得我們也沒必要孩子一叫就停下一切撲過去問他“怎么了?要什么?”
4. If you do need to get somebody\'s attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
如果你真的很需要插入別人的談話,說“不好意思”是一種禮貌介入的方法。
5. When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.
如果你不確定是否可以做某件事,那就首先征得別人同意。去別人家做客的小孩,如果想吃桌上的零食,倘若事先可以問一句“我能吃這些嗎?”是會(huì)讓host多么愉悅的行為!
6. The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.
這個(gè)世界沒有興趣知道你不喜歡什么。一些負(fù)面的意見,自己知道就好,或者和朋友說說就好。
7. Do not comment on other people\'s physical characteristics unless, of course, it\'s to compliment them, which is always welcome.
不要對(duì)別人的外表評(píng)頭論足,除非,是褒義的夸獎(jiǎng)。
8. When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.
如果別人問你過得好嗎?回答他也順便問候一下對(duì)方。
9. When you have spent time at your friend\'s house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.
如果被邀請(qǐng)去小伙伴家做客,要感謝他的父母讓你度過了一段快樂時(shí)光。
10. Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there\'s a response -- before entering.
進(jìn)入關(guān)門的房間請(qǐng)敲門。
11. When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
打電話給別人的時(shí)候先介紹說自己是誰。
12. Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
要有感恩之心,收到禮物要說謝謝。到了會(huì)寫郵件的年紀(jì),表達(dá)感謝可以寫一封thank-you note,收到的人會(huì)很愉快。
13. Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.
不要講粗話。更不要為了顯示自己長大了在大人面前講。大人都知道這些,他們只會(huì)覺得則這樣很無聊。
14. Don\'t call people mean names
不要喊別人的綽號(hào)。
15. Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
不要取笑別人。取笑人家只是顯得你很弱。
16. Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.
如果看一個(gè)演出覺得很無聊,也請(qǐng)盡量安靜看完,表演者已經(jīng)很盡力了。
17. If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."
不小心撞到人立刻說“不好意思”
18. Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don\'t pick your nose in public.
打噴嚏或咳嗽都遮住嘴巴,公眾場合不要挖鼻子。
19. As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.
推門而出的時(shí)候,看下是否能幫后面的人hold一下門讓它開著。
20. If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new.
如果看到爸媽、鄰居或者老師在忙,問下是否需要幫忙?如果他們說“好”,你也許就可以學(xué)到一些新的事兒哦。
21. When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.
如果大人請(qǐng)你幫忙,不要抱怨,微笑著去做。
22. When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!
別人幫你的時(shí)候,要說謝謝!這樣別人下次還愿意幫你哦。
23. Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.
養(yǎng)成正確使用餐具的習(xí)慣。如果不確定怎么用餐具,就請(qǐng)教父母或者看著父母怎么做。
24. Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.
吃飯的時(shí)候把餐布或者餐巾紙放一張?jiān)诖笸壬希枰臅r(shí)候用來擦嘴。
25. Don\'t reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
不要站起身來去夠遠(yuǎn)處的食物,請(qǐng)別人幫你遞過來。